Eulogy is a speech or writing in praise of a deceased person. Its purpose is to commemorate a loved one in his death and let the bereaved know how everyone is celebrating his life. It’s presented either during a funeral or at a memorial service. There may be a hundred and one steps and tips on making eulogies but there are about three general and basic steps that will do.
- Recall memories made with the deceased. This is the perfect time to reminisce. You may be classmates in college or even in high school and have made a lot of funny moments. Add humor on your eulogy. It is never illegal to make people smile or even laugh during these times.
- Write from the heart. Once you gain a momentum by reminiscing, get a pen and paper and write it all out. Don’t mind the grammars just yet; continue rambling as these flow of words are thoughts from your heart. The first draft is always the best to work on.
- Review and revise. When you feel drained and out of words already, that is your cue of taking a coffee break. Leave it at that for a moment. When you get back to it, read as if you did not write it yourself. Read with the eyes and ears of the bereaved and the people expected to attend the service. Evaluate your feelings when done. How do you feel about the speech afterwards? Do you miss the deceased more? Do you smile at the thought of those words spoken about him? Or do you feel the opposite like he’s life and death were not given justice by the writer of that eulogy?
That feeling generated will guide you when revising. Bear in mind that the speech must not be incriminating. It must not box him (the deceased) in to just a mere memory. The goal is to bring him back to life if only through your memories of him. For a better picture you make of the deceased, recite poems he loved, or sing his favorite song (just a paragraph or so, else you’ll bored everyone to death).
After revisions, don’t forget to rehearse your final draft. Read it out loud. Read to a friend if you may and ask for constructive criticisms. Bear in mind that your speech must not be too long or too short that attendees won’t feel you ever said anything. Five to ten minutes will do. When finally the time for you to come to the pulpit has come, keep that handkerchief ready and deliver (like when you were writing) from the heart.
About the Author:
Shiela Mae Parreno is a writer for the Funeral Program Site where you can find beautiful templates for funeral related printed materials.