Personalizing a funeral service for a loved one can be very rewarding for the grieving family members. Although some religions have a funeral ritual they follow, they are able to let the family personalize the service to some extend. Customizing to the deceased focuses on the person whose life is being honored and celebrated which also begins the healing process.
We've noted a few ways to personalize such as service, whether the deceased has been cremated or buried, there are still a variety of ways from displaying personal items during the viewing to altering traditional forms of services. Some examples to personalize a service include:
These are only a few things you can do to provide greater meaning to the family that is representative of the deceased life. It is recommend that families consult with their funeral director to develop suitable additions or service enhancements that will better celebrate their loved one's life.
Variations to an already established ritual can be made if requested. At a graveside committal service, generally the funeral director will sprinkle sand over the casket or urn while the officiant says "earth to earth, ashes to ashes, dust to dust." You can alter this by sprinkling a handful of earth or sand from the birthplace or special place of the deceased. This often can provide an important emotional connection and meaning for the family.
It is also a good idea to consult with your church pastor or clergy about any additions or slight modifications you would like to have to ensure that it is within the religious belief systems of the religion.