The eulogy is the focal point of a funeral service and can be noted within the funeral service program. It illustrates a picture of the deceased and makes the service personal by sharing the memories with all who attend. It should help remember and affirm your loved one while giving value and honor to his or her character, by sharing about how he or she lived life and touched others.
A Eulogy can be presented in a few different ways:
You can elicit personal remembrances from specific guests. Usually the guest would share a brief word and you can choose 5-6 family or friends to each share a personal experience or remembrance of your loved one. This allows several people to provide a eulogy but split up in portions as opposed to having one person provide the whole eulogy.
You or another appropriate person at your request, can offer a personal remembrance of your loved one. Often this is done by a son or daughter on behalf of a whole family. Having one person provide the eulogy draws from their own information and memories and usually last 5-10 minutes in length. You can also gather information from family and friends and weave that information into a moving and wonderful sharing time about your loved one.
You may be in the midst of funeral preparations and arrangements and do not have the time or effort to gather information and write a short speech. A method that can be helpful and promote the beginning processes of healing is to gather immediate family and close friends.
Arrange a comfortable setting where everyone can sit together in an informal fashion. At the gathering, express your need for information about your loved one’s life so you can present a eulogy. Facilitate the group sharing and encourage everyone to participate. Take notes or have a friend help you, you can also record the sharing. Ask questions that encourage the people talking to develop their memories.
Once you’ve received the information, you can begin writing a eulogy. Look for patterns, key phrases, and things that capture the essence of your loved one’s character. Remember that it is not possible to write everything about a person’s life so choose specific items that will highlight how they lived and touch the lives of others.
You can note the eulogy presenter within one of our award winning funeral program templates which creates the perfect program for your loved one's service. What does a real sample of a eulogy look like? Read one here.