Young Husband and Father

For a Young Husband and Father Gone Too Soon - The Everlasting Arms Psalm 139:1-12


‘Ah Love, could thou and I with fate conspire

To grasp this sorry scheme of things entire,

Would we not shatter it to bits, and then

Remold it nearer to the heart's desire!’

The sudden and untimely death of Chuck reminds us of ‘Rubaiyat’ and some of its lines. It is a poem written by Omar Khayyam.

Reading this poem makes us realize of our inner thoughts, of how we wish that things happened differently. Of how we would love to do things differently if only we can bring Chuck back. It is about trying to understand the schemes of the world and how we can possibly change it.

Yet we know that it is impossible. We don’t know what the future holds because we are not God. What we can only do is to believe in the promises of God. Being a Christian means believing in life after death in the paradise with our Lord. We believe that with God’s love and grace, we will see our loved ones again in the place he set up for his children.

The psalmist in Psalm 139 speaks about God and his attributes as an all-knowing God. He talked about God and how he always stayed with him wherever he goes. He talks about how God never let go of his hands no matter how far he is and how God helped him find the right way.

You know when I sit down and when I rise up;

you discern my thoughts from far away. ...

If I ascend to heaven, you are there;

if I make my bed in [the place of the dead], you are there.

If I take the wings of the morning

and settle at the farthest limits of the sea,

even there your hand shall lead me,

and your right hand shall hold me fast.

The death of Chuck at a very young age is heartbreaking. His passing is something that will always make us question God’s reason for taking him from us at a very young age. However, as we question God’s will, we should be thankful as well for the time he gave Chuck to us, so he can be with us. We now know that he is with our Lord.

Remember Chuck in his best – best smile, best actions, best words. Keep him in your hearts and don’t forget how he touched your lives. To his daughters, your father is a generous and loving man. Mary, Louise, Georgie, be proud of your father and of his actions as a man. Even on his last day, he wanted to help. In fact, he agreed to donate his organs after his death because he wanted other people to live a better life with his organs. He is also known for his upright work ethics especially in doing his business. He is a known example among his colleagues when it comes to doing business.

To his wife, Alice, there are a lot of things that will remind you of Chuck – holidays, birthdays, and anniversaries. Remember him and his love for you. Be fond of the memories he had with you during those celebrations. To Helen, your loving son is such a blessing. Losing a son is not easy, yet, hold on to God’s promise.

There are two verses that I want to share with you, Helen. "As a mother comforts her child, so I will comfort you," says the Lord in Isiah 66:13. This is the first one. In this verse, we can feel the maternal love of our heavenly Father and how he will comfort us in times like this.

Another verse that I want to share with you Helen and to everyone here is from the book of Deuteronomy. In Deuteronomy 33:27, it says 'The eternal God is your dwelling place, and underneath are the everlasting arms’ (RSV). In this verse, take note of where God’s arms are. It is not around us, pulling us to a tight embrace but rather it is underneath us, carrying us and comforting us. With the death of Chuck, you will feel so down. You might be asking, ‘why Chuck?’ This verse reminds us that God is always ready to catch us. With the love of our Lord and with our faith, we will stand tall.

Remember that God loves us all. He won’t leave us nor forsake us. When we are down, he is there to pick us up, to hold us beneath us. He is like the wind beneath our wings to keep us from falling. In his famous poem, “The Eternal Goodness,” John Greenleaf Whittier talked about trusting God’s love and care:

I know not where His islands lift

Their fronded palms in air;

I only know I cannot drift

Beyond His love and care.

The untimely death of Chuck is deeply felt not only by his family but by everyone who knew him. We will continue missing him in days and years to come. There are a lot of things that will remind us of him. Let us be grateful for these memories. Let us be grateful that we have these fond and happy memories to remember this man with and know that Chuck is now with our Father in heaven, watching over us.